Hardness does not equal healing, I thought this to myself as, I sat on my bedroom floor, crying silently after taking a professional development course that set me all the way straight in life. Have you ever told yourself that you were okay after getting hurt living like you’ve moved passed the pain like nothing happened? This moment was my realization; that I had been untrue to my truth for over fifteen years of my life. My response to pain has been: “I am okay, it is natural, just deal with it, who cares, Bianca this is just your reality, figure it out?”
But was I really figuring anything out or was I just stuffing it away waiting for it to blow up one day? Clearly the latter and that day of reckoning had finally come. As a counselor and coach, I have helped many individuals find themselves, seek clarity, communicate better with their loved ones and show up in workplaces better. In my personal life, I am yet to crack the secret code fore being a mother. As a daughter, I am most certain that I could be doing more and as an individual, well that is what this blog is about; my journey to wholeness and vulnerability.
What makes you whole may not be the same things that makes me whole and that is okay. This blog is a safe non-judgmental, inquisitive way to grow. I will be sharing aspects on spirituality, relationships and mental health. Why? Truthfully, these are the areas I relate to, connect with and feel called to. And also because I refuse to hide my fullness my wholeness any longer, despite my struggles.
One truth about me is that there is nothing normal about the life I live. With that said, this blog will not be just me telling you about how great my life is or what, I think you should be doing with yours. Rather, it will be me shedding light on my story: the good and the not so great, in hopes to inspire you to never give up and to never harden your heart towards the things that matter most to you. Brené Brown, a pioneer in vulnerability and owning your truth, states that “owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.”
~Until next time~
Remember to always: BE positive BE determined and BE You